There is a scene where the husband asks his wife if she loves him. She is shocked that he would even ask such a thing, and replies that for 25 years of marriage she has cared for him, took care of the house, made his bed, cooked his food, and reared their kids. And then says, if that isn’t love then what it is?
That playful interaction illustrates one of the most beautiful elements of true love: selflessness.
When we first fall in love we usually say things like, “I love you” or “I want to be with you.” The focus is on the “I” part of the equation. This is fine and normal. But true love in a healthy marriage focuses on meeting the needs of our spouse and not selfishly on our own.
Falling in love is only the beginning. It’s the first step in an amazing journey where two people become one. But the extreme feelings of intimacy first felt will taper off.
So how can a husband and wife keep passion’s fire burning?
Being considerate and caring are two things they can do to kindle the flames.
Actions speak louder than words.
So your behavior towards your spouse should communicate how much he or she means to you (and this is exactly what it does because it reveals how much or how little that you really care for them).
We are all aware that love and infatuation are two very different things. We also know that love isn’t just an emotion. Love is a decision — a commitment. It’s the action of deliberately choosing to dedicate yourself and energies to making your loved one happy.
If your love is founded upon feelings alone then your marriage will crumble. The focus should be on sustaining the relationship and cultivating an appreciation for one another daily. This leads to harmony and warmth. And you will begin experiencing first hand what it really means to cherish one another.
It is for this very reason that marriage advice typically centers on the idea of being considerate towards one’s partner. Otherwise selfishness creeps in and chokes the relationship.
Love is more than an emotion – it’s a verb, an action — that we demonstrate continually regardless of how we happen to feel on any given day.
There are many marriages being made and broken every day in the world. There are contracts and agreements. There are attempts at devotion and dedication. Yet unless Knowledge is your foundation, unless you have arrived at that point where true marriage is a necessity and not merely an option, unless you have been prepared for being in a relationship at this level, your marriage will only be an attempt. This is true even if you value marriage for the right reasons. This is why you must be prepared.
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Credits: Mrs Gift Bisong