THE TALE OF MARRIAGE

There is a scene where the husband asks his wife if she loves him. She is shocked that he would even ask such a thing, and replies that for 25 years of marriage she has cared for him, took care of the house, made his bed, cooked his food, and reared their kids. And then says, if that isn’t love then what it is?

That playful interaction illustrates one of the most beautiful elements of true love: selflessness.

When we first fall in love we usually say things like,  “I love you” or “I want to be with you.” The focus is on the “I” part of the equation. This is fine and normal. But true love in a healthy marriage focuses on meeting the needs of our spouse and not selfishly on our own.

Falling in love is only the beginning. It’s the first step in an amazing journey where two people become one. But the extreme feelings of intimacy first felt will taper off.

So how can a husband and wife keep passion’s fire burning?

Being considerate and caring are two things they can do to kindle the flames.

Actions speak louder than words.

So your behavior towards your spouse should communicate how much he or she means to you (and this is exactly what it does because it reveals how much or how little that you really care for them).

We are all aware that love and infatuation are two very different things. We also know that love isn’t just an emotion. Love is a decision — a commitment. It’s the action of deliberately choosing to dedicate yourself and energies to making your loved one happy.

If your love is founded upon feelings alone then your marriage will crumble. The focus should be on sustaining the relationship and cultivating an appreciation for one another daily. This leads to harmony and warmth. And you will begin experiencing first hand what it really means to cherish one another.

It is for this very reason that marriage advice typically centers on the idea of being considerate towards one’s partner. Otherwise selfishness creeps in and chokes the relationship.

Love is more than an emotion – it’s a verb, an action — that we demonstrate continually regardless of how we happen to feel on any given day.

There are many marriages being made and broken every day in the world. There are contracts and agreements. There are attempts at devotion and dedication. Yet unless Knowledge is your foundation, unless you have arrived at that point where true marriage is a necessity and not merely an option, unless you have been prepared for being in a relationship at this level, your marriage will only be an attempt. This is true even if you value marriage for the right reasons. This is why you must be prepared.

At this juncture, I will bring you FACTS about weddings’ satisfaction.

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What a family should be like


Despite the perfect picture families that always seem to loom over us on television, posters and bill boards, there are many more complexities and dynamics to families than all smiles and laughter. All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the very best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one’s family life is perfect; but you can make yours good, so why not?

Understand your family well. If you don’t then there can be many misunderstandings and fights. Be with them whenever you can and get to know them better. A lot of families now don’t get to know each other too well because they’re too busy. Plan some family time, like, a movie, or a family game, or even as little as eating dinner together.


Respect your family. Your children, your wife/husband are now yours but remember at the end of the day they are also humans. They also have an opinion or suggestion. Sometimes it can be bad or good. Never be angry with someone’s opinion, they have their opinions, and no one’s perfect.


Give time. No one wants to be ignored just for some meeting or work. Give time to each and every one of them so you can understand every individual properly and this can prevent any misunderstandings in the future.


Treat everyone as equal. Whether its your maid or stepchild, they also deserve love and affection from you as you deserve from your wife/husband or from your own child. Treat everyone like you would want to be treated, and getting along with your family should be easy


Never scream or shout at anyone. This can create hatred for you in their hearts. By simply making them understand can do a lot. Why waste energy when you can do it calmly?


Try not to fight with your siblings. Fighting can tear your relationship apart and you’ll regret it when you get older. Treasure the time you have with your siblings, you can’t get it back.

Learn to compromise. When you or someone else in your family wants the total opposite of each other, find a way to work it out to give you all what you want.

Help each other. When you see your sibling or parent needs help, help them. Doing little things such as holding the door for them, or helping someone with homework.


Organizing surprise birthday parties and celebrating any individual’s achievements can really help.
Avoid using offensive and abusive words against each other or your family will get cross and start shouting at you.
Sometimes teenagers can feel sad or lonely. First ask them about it and if they don’t want to share then its OK. It’s just hormones. If you think that something is really bad, ask their close friends and help him/her.


Never ever break any promise. This can hurt them or make them feel that you are a liar and every time will break promises.
Don’t scold too much. Scolding can be good for them but never overdo it.


Make them realize in an easy way. If someone in your family has done something wrong or have betrayed your trust, make them realize their mistake in an easy way. Do not yell or use abusive language. 

Why Kissing Is Healthy

did you know that locking lips with someone makes you live longer, helps prevent tooth decay and burns calories?

Apart from the obvious bacteria swapping and reducing stress levels, it turns out there is plenty more to know about a good snog with your partner, lover, or whoever else you happen to be swapping saliva with. Author David Wolfe has produced a video on the 11 thinks you never knew about kissing, and these are the surprising facts, captured UK’s The Sun.


1. It increases life expectancy Men who kiss their wives in the morning live five years longer than men who don’t.


2. It prevents tooth decay Kissing increases the mouth’s production of saliva, which helps to clean the mouth and prevent tooth decay.

3. We swap more than just germs We swap an average of 9ml of water, 0.7mg of protein, 0.18mg of organic compounds, 0.71mg of different fats and 0.45mg of sodium chloride when we lock lips.
4. But there are still A LOT of germs involved One millilitre of saliva contains about 100,000,000 bacteria.


5. It actually burns calories – get kissing, ladies Couples can burn anywhere between 2 and 26 calories per minute while kissing and can use up to 30 muscles.
6. We do a lot of it The average person will spend an estimated 20,160 minutes of their lifetime kissing. That’s 336 hours, or 14 whole days.
7. Some more than others, it seems The longest kiss ever recorded was 58 hours, 35 minutes and 58 seconds – nearly two and a half days.


8. Our brains know how to find our lovers lips Sixty-six per cent of people close their eyes during a kiss. Our brains have special neurons that help us to locate each other’s lips in the dark.
9. It can stop us falling ill There is some evidence, from past studies, to suggest that kissing provides us a means of protecting ourselves from certain viruses.


10. It’s more than just fun – it’s stress relieving Holding hands and kissing reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol, thereby lowering blood pressure and optimising immune response


11. There’s a scientific reason for why we want more When you kiss someone for the first time you get a spike in dopamine, which makes you crave more.

7 common foods that can help your Manhood performance

If you want to perform better as a man, without using unnatural methods, these 7 foods should be in your diet.

Many men have performance anxiety when it comes to bedroom affairs.

The average man wants to impress his lover— turning the bedroom time to a war that must be won.

Well, if you want to perform better as a man, these 7 foods should be in your diet:
Figs-These have amino acids that helps improve your sexual energy and increase libido.

Eggs-Eggs have a lot of protein. They help rebuild penile tissues and control your hormone levels.

Basil-Basil helps in improving circulation and flow to the Pen.!s, thereby aiding erection.

Almonds-Almonds help the heart and brain. They are rich in fatty acids which increase the male hormones.

Banana-Bananas are rich in protein which increases libido and gives stronger erections.

Garlic-Garlic may be smelly but they contain allicin which also improve circulation to the Penis.

Tuna-Tuna contains an enzyme, Larginine, which promotes penile blood flow and enlargement.

So, before you consider unnatural methods, try to have these foods in your diet.

You just must not need anything else

30-YEAR-OLD MARRIED MAN MARRIES TWO MORE WIVES ON NEW YEAR’S EVE

A 30-year-old man, Isyaka Dahiru, has got tongues wagging after he married two women at the same time in Nasarawa State.

The event which took place on New Year eve, brought the number of his wives to three.

Isyaka Dahiru and his two newly-wedded wives

Dahiru, a graduate of Accountancy from the state Federal Polytechnic, shared his pre-wedding photos with the two brides, Khadijat and Rashida.

He wrote: “The family of late Mallam Dahiru Ahmed invites the general public to the weeding fatiha of his son Isyaka Dahiru (Smiling Judge) and Khadijat and Rashida, which is scheduled to take place on 31/12/2016 at Muhd Adi residence behind RCM School Doma, off Ruttu Road by 10am.”

The second wedding took place an hour later at Sakora Dakashi Street off Lafia Road, while reception followed immediately at the groom’s residence along Lafia Road in Doma Local Government Area.

Facebook users blasted the ‘he-goat’ after he made the announcement.

A user, Eedris Sule said, “Because your religion permits you to marry up to four wives does not mean you should turn yourself into a he-goat.”

Makarfi Adams wrote: “Such a person will die young. You are 30 and have 3 wives already? Just dig your grave. Idiot.”

Desmond_Folks wrote: “And he gladly made this public. You shoyld be ashamed. I don’t even blame you, I blame the women. Two on the same day? What are the women thinking sef?

Well, things keep happening. For comments and features, mail me at coolebricks@gmail.com

How Ini Edo spent her new year in Dubai

Nollywood Actress and Special adviser on Tourism to Akwa Ibom state governor, Ini Edo has revealed how she spent her end of year holidays in Dubai.

Ini Edo having a dinner

The beautiful actress shared photos of her fun moments, which included trips to the world famous Burj Al Arab hotel and the Atlantis.

The thespian also shared pictures and videos of her saying goodbye to 2016 and ringing in the New Year.
Ini kissing a dolphin

she had a fun by the seaside too.

MR & MRS CHIKELZ

Traditional marriages are moments to display the cultural heritage of the land and people. Such was the case of Mr & Mrs ChiKelz as they knotted the marriage ties.

the occasion was honoured by HRH Eze U.C and other dignitaries too numerous to mention.

the bride welcoming her guests

The groom’s arrival

The groom paying respect to his in-laws to be

well, without wasting much time, we went straight into the occasion proper as she went in search of her hubby…

she had to go and point out to the public who her “Mr Right” was to be…

oh yes! He’s been hiding but I believe she just found him!!!

and he just nailed it!!!

sharing their love together

performing the traditional rites by the groom

They stepped out to showcase themselves to the guests

she showed her dancing steps with style

she rocked the day.

cutting of the cake by the couple

The occasion was a grand celebration to both families.

Merry Christmas!!!

Yeah!! The year is finally coming to an end and a whole lot has taken different dimensions that either favoured some and didn’t reflect on others….
So here is what i’ve got for those that couldn’t afford fishes, chicken, goat or even lizard. Enjoy this

How many persons remember this?

It’s time so lets go into the market and we’ll be back in a jiffy

LOVERS PARADISE

This is a collection for lovers.
To all my fans out there, have fun with this experience….
Families hang out this way

giving her the care she deserves


closeness could mean so much too. fun time together brings joy

starting up on a plane ground could take you both this far.

both on same page

sharing everything is part of the bond

this is where it suppose to lead you both to

back in the days of black and white
till death comes…

how Chinese does the love-thing

wedding with grand style